Why Babies and Toddlers Love Their Loveys—And You Should Too!
A cherished lovey (think: a cozy blankie or a soft teddy bear) can give little kids much-needed comfort, confidence, and security. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) even attests that every child “needs” a comfort object in their early years for emotional support. And, the best part, loveys are available day or night…even when Mom or Dad might not be nearby.
What’s a lovey?
A lovey, also called a comfort object or transitional object, is any object that a baby or toddler bonds with in order to feel comforted and secure. We all remember Linus from Peanuts dragging his beloved blankie behind him. And then there’s Calvin who had Hobbes the tiger…and Christopher Robin had Winnie the Pooh, of course. These are just a few examples of loveys that children adore…but loveys aren’t always what you’d expect. I’ve seen kids cling to diapers, silk scarves, and all sorts of toys as their loveys. For years, my little patient Alex was “hooked” on sleeping with his Captain Hook’s hook!
Loveys can be anything your child connects with. The only real lovey rules: Keep it out of the bassinet of babies for the first year of life and make sure it doesn’t have any little pieces, like button eyes or beads in the stuffing that can be a choking risk…or get stuck up your kiddo’s nose. No matter what your little one gravitates to, the universal truth is this: Kids love their loveys! And a cozy, cuddly lovey is a great sleep cue for older babies and toddlers.
How should parents introduce a lovey to help Baby sleep?
The best time to introduce a lovey like a blankie or sweet stuffed bear is when your little one is around 6 months old. You won’t leave the lovey in your child’s crib before their first birthday, but by introducing the lovey at 6 months, your little one will soon start to recognize it as a friend. Here are a couple of tips to help your little baby bond with their lovey:
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Make it smell like a loved one. Parents should wear or hold the lovey for at least an hour prior to handing it to Baby. Scent can be soothing for your child, and it creates the illusion that their parent is right there.
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Keep the lovey around all day long. Make your baby’s lovey a regular member of the family! Bring it on walks, have it on the changing table, in your arms, so your little one begins to recognize it and connect it with comfort and security.
Why do parents worry about using loveys?
For the first 12 months of Baby’s life, the safest sleepytime “loveys” are pacifiers and anything that makes white noise, aka the “teddy bear of sound.” But once your little one has passed the one-year mark, you can—and should—introduce a handkerchief-sized silky blanket or cuddly stuffed animal during naps and nights…but lots of parents are resistant. In fact, one medical study found that only 10.5% of families take advantage of the wonderful help that a lovey can give to their 12-month-olds. I think that may be because many parents have been intimidated by experts who warn that loveys create an “unhealthy dependency.” So wrong!
Parents who turn their backs on loveys are missing a huge opportunity! These cuddly friends are a wonderful sleep aid, they help babies and toddlers build confidence and security, and they work wonders for easing separation anxiety, too. Loveys are also especially comforting amid times of stress, like during travel, an illness, or a parent’s absence—and for babies and toddlers with cautious, sensitive temperaments. The AAP even notes that loveys help children make the emotional transition from dependence to independence. And your tot’s favorite lovey is available anytime—day or night. So, a lovey is a first friend….and a very, very good habit.
Do babies get addicted to loveys?
Well, babies do get attached to their lovies. In fact, research shows that young children believe their lovey possesses a special essence—meaning they love it like a beloved member of the family. But addiction makes that attachment sound negative. It’s not! Many little ones rely on their loveys for help getting to sleep, but that’s no different from you relying on your favorite pillow and cozy blanket for sleep. Because of this, it would be smart to always have an identical backup lovey. Losing a lovey can be traumatic for a child. Every couple of weeks, rotate your baby’s two loveys. This allows you to keep them clean and to have them both develop the same comforting feel and smell.
What’s more helpful: A lovey or a white noise machine?
There’s no need to choose! Both loveys and white noise are powerful sleep cues for babies and toddlers—and I recommend using both. That’s why I created SNOObear, a snuggly lovey that also plays soothing and sleep-inducing white noise sounds. SNOObear plays shushing rhythms for 30- to 60-minutes to lull little ones off to sleep and settle scaries. And SNOObear goes the extra mile and “pays attention” to your tot, automatically turning back on with more soothing sounds if your sweet pea cries or fusses…helping parents and tykes sleep better!
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